Certain things just don't need to be said. Words might be itching to escape your mouth and you are just dying to let them fly...but a little restraint goes a long way sometimes. It is one of the most difficult things we can practice and it takes A LOT of practice to contain our mouths. I have worked on this over the years and I continue to do so. I am not sure anyone is perfect at this.
If you invest some time into learning about the 'ego', you can discover why your mouth wants to get away from you. When we stay connected to our egos we find we must express every thought that pushes to the surface. We need to be heard. We want to get OUR thoughts out. We want to push OUR opinions on others. We want to express what We know. All of this is our egos...fighting to be heard. Wanting to take over.
I try so hard not to offer my opinion to someone unless they are asking for it. (Unless I am in the classroom, then it is my job to offer my opinion.) People use others to bounce ideas off from and it is okay to just listen to others and smile and let them have that opportunity. However, once you get your ego involved, you've gone too far. You've crossed the line of a good listener. Ego: 1.
Have you ever been innocently visiting with another when they offer advice about your housekeeping or clothing? This is their ego surfacing and they are judging you by their standards. It is hard not to do this. It is also difficult when it is done to you. The best way out is to smile and move on, because truly it is unintentional most of the time.
What a freedom it is to NOT offer your ego all the time! Try it. You see the world from a very unbiased and clean venue.
Take Good Care Today.
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