Follow Me Then Fly: Body and Life Management for Women: No Pain No Gain

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Here we go! A blog for my women who struggle with being and living their best selves. Let this blog be to strengthen your wisdom and vitality for life and thus your physical person. May it be a resource of encouragement to you and a place of comfort and new strategies. My desire for Follow Me Then Fly is for women who need a companion to find an understanding home here. I hope my wisdom and my words will point you to Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior and aid you in your walk to be your unique and optimal selves, living fully for Him. I do not claim to be anything other than I am: a Christian, a woman, a teacher, a leader. I've learned a few things along the way and have some knowledge to share. What I share with you is from my life's learnings and from my heart. Welcome.

Friday, June 5, 2015

No Pain No Gain

When you're a child you don't know. You have no idea why things happen the way they do and often you don't think to question how or why because it might not occur to you to do so. Why would it? Does a caterpillar question why it makes a cocoon? When you are little you rely on the world to make decisions for you. You are not capable of deciding for yourself, protecting yourself or guiding where you go. You need protection and help.

Childhood is a time in our lives where many of us received hurts that have been with us our entire lives. We are the products of families where there has been divorce, violence, poverty, neglect. In these cases we had to learn, from childhood, to find a way to fend for ourselves in order to survive. Many of us are able to rise out and make better lives for ourselves, but others wallow in the same misery forever. Either way, the pain is still there.

Some people learn to become people who can fit into the norms of life quite naturally and deal with events well, roll with things and keep it together. Others can not. Some people conform to an ideal in order to cope, put up with unrealistic inner parameters, or just get depressed. Others turn to substances to help them deal. Whatever our childhoods, we have turned into adults who have had to find a way to press on and live. We want happiness and joy and we do what needs to be done to experience that.

However, hurts can remain embedded within us and have helped to form who we are. This is not always a bad thing! Hurt can be used to inspire and mold. It can drive people to become amazing humans who accomplish wonderful feats. But deep inside, there might always be some pain. That is okay. It is okay to have pain inside. It is what makes us human. We learn to live life with some hurt because there is no way to not do so. We learn to take that hurt and have compassion for others. There are many folks who do not have compassion. If you are a woman who has suffered and has a down day once in awhile, count your blessings that you have felt on every level from the wondrous highs to the painful lows. This has molded you and made you a unique gift to the world. You have much to share with and much to be for the world.